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Closing the Gap After a Communication Breakdown

Effective communication is important not just in relationships, but in life. In this message, Atiya discusses five ways to close a gap once communication has broken down.

For more information, please visit us online at http://www.themarriagetree.net. To read the full article, please go to: http://www.blacklifecoaches.net/2014/04/25/5-ways-bridge-gap-communication-breakdown/

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Authenticating Your Marriage

In this message, Atiya discusses how to Authentic Your Marriage and the importance of being honest and open to your mate.  For more information, please visit us online at http://www.themarriagetree.net. To read the full article, please go to: http://www.blacklifecoaches.net/2014/07/08/marriage-suffering-authentic/

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Achieving a Marriage Mindset

Atiya, founder of The Marriage Tree, in this message shares 7 mindset shifts that you can make in order to enhance or save their marriage. For more information, please visit us online at http://www.themarriagetree.net. To read the full article, please go to: http://www.blacklifecoaches.net/2014/05/19/understanding-universal-laws-achieving-marriage-mindset/

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Science of Lovemaking

In this message, Atiya shares 4 tips on how to spice things up in your relationship. For more information, please visit online at http://www.themarriagetree.net. To read the full article, go to: http://www.blacklifecoaches.net/2014/03/26/science-lovemaking/

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Developing a Wealth Consciousness for Your Marriage

In this message, Atiya discusses the importance of fiscal responsibility and being aware of how you utilize your resources in marriage. For more information, please visit us online at http://www.themarriagetree.net. To read the article, go to: http://www.blacklifecoaches.net/2014/02/22/developing-wealth-consciousness-marriage/

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StraightForward Talk with ATIYA -Live Radio, Ep 3

In episode 3  of Straightforward talk with Atiya, She  answers another relationship letter from a listener, tackles the topic of social media  (Facebook, Twitter) and its effects on relationships and in marriage and also answers a question about the outward affection of love shown by couples on the island of Grenada.

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Cut the Bull Crap!

No Bull CrapNow, I have heard women say the same way you get a man is the same way you lose him. When it’s stated you can see and hear those in the Amen section nodding their heads and saying, “That’s right.” When you look at the situation, the ones who are in that frame of mind are the ones who usually don’t have a man or in healthy relationships.

That is not right. It’s stinkin’ thinkin’. If you lay the proper foundation for a relationship, it is possible that a healthy, loving, faithful marriage can ensue. If you sneakin’ and creepin’ with someone else’s man then, I guess I can see your point. But what do you expect? How do you think you are going to be blessed?

Women with that mindset come into the relationship with thoughts of failure. How can you keep him, when you doom it to failure from the get go? The same is true with the statement that, “All men lie and all men cheat. This is crappy thinking, a crappy attitude, and damaging to all women. First, it does not allow you as a woman to start a relationship on the right foot. Second, it sends the woman who is working to build a happy and healthy marriage or relationship on a head trip.

I think these sorts of statements stem from envy and jealousy because I have noticed that it is usually single women saying this to women in relationships.

Sounds like bull crap to me. What about you?

Your comments are welcomed.

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Two Words That Solves the Marriage Crisis

love-is-trustThere are two words that solve the whole marriage crisis. They are love and trust, and this applies to everyone whether you are married or single. For the single person, love and trust God enough to hold on to your vision of marriage until that special one comes. For the married couples love and trust each other enough to know that God sent the right one.

 I was very touched by an article written by Lesahaun Taylor, author of the book entitled, “It Was Me All Along” that I wanted to post it here in Dear Atiya with my comments.

 Article by LeShaun Taylor:

Often times we talk about the awesome pluses to being single. Freedom to come and go as you please, not having to ride an emotional roller coaster and being able to date multiple people with no attachments. With so much divorce, financial strains, and infidelity it doesn’t even seem worth the effort.

Some have determined themselves to be married to singleness. Divorce has become so common place, within the church and out, that our hope, innocence and belief system in love and trust has been damaged. I heard a wise man say how beautiful it is for a child to keep the hope and excitement for Christmas and Santa Clause alive.

It gives them something to look forward to and no matter what, that gleam in their eyes of excitement and joy is priceless. I will say this about being single, enjoy it but don’t put a ring on! Trust that the man or woman in your vision, is on the way to help you with the vision.

Comments by Atiya:

Great article and very timely. SMILE. I encourage abstinence until marriage. It is so very important to respect, love, and appreciation in marriage. While abstinence has always been a goal of mine from very young, I like many fell short of reaching it until now. In my current marriage, I finally achieved that goal, and I am married to a wonderful man of God, no doubt about it! SMILE.

What most people do not realized is that a Godly arranged marriage opens both husband and wife up to their healing from their past and those who are running from the commitment that comes with marriage is in truth running from their own healing. Likewise, divorce happens because one runs from their healing, or the other is refusing to go through the process of healing.

I would like to add though that, singleness is not just a mindset that people who are not married take on, it is one of the greatest problems in marriage that triggers all sorts of other issues that can lead to a one way trip to divorce court.

It is natural for someone who is single to have a single mindset. However, a supernatural mindset is needed for marriage, and when one walks through that door of holy matrimony, couples must be prepared for a new paradigm and learn to move with both speed and accuracy, because at that point, the couple is operating in another realm. If they are not prepared, not sincerely ready to walk that walk, or afraid of losing themselves, the ride can get pretty bumpy and lessons learned the hard way.

The world of singleness and the world of holy matrimony are very different, and if people would truly open their eyes and really look at what is going on around them, they would be able to see from a different perspective and a discerning pair of eyes. The problem is two fold.

Single people who hate singleness and do not prepare, understand, or hold the vision of marriage, consciously or unconsciously wages war on the world of matrimony. The marriage becomes invaded by inappropriate emotional attachments between married and non married persons of the opposite gender, thus breaking a bond necessary for marriage to thrive. This happens through things like facebook, twitter, other social media. This happens through friendships, job, church. The sad thing is that the persons who have been possessed fails to realize that they have lost their balance, and the married person will begin to see their spouse as the enemy and the single person will begin to unconsciously or consciously do things out of a lustful spirit such as go online just to see if the person is there, dress to gain the attention of the married person, make themselves always present and available just in case the married person needs them.

Married couples who have not totally committed themselves to the process of marriage or whose intentions were not really on marriage at the onset but rather to get a woman or a man rather than a husband or a wife, or who is struggling to make that paradigm shift for whatever reasons breaks down the marriage and erects walls of division by not building hedges of protection around it. They are exposed by faulty reasoning such as this is mine and that is yours, these are my friends, those are your friends, and I need more space, not realizing that there is a huge gap of space that is filled with everything else other than the spouse. Married couples must have a shared vision for their marriage, because single visions in marriage do not work. It takes the spirit of love and harmony – we, us, and ours. Married couples must cover one another as not to leave the other exposed. Friendships and relationships must be healthy and whole and friendships of the marriage. How can two walk together unless they be agreed.

It takes a whole lot more than walking down the aisle saying “I do” or “I will.”

Singleness is a temporary condition that is designed for a short time to allow for the opportunity to prepare. Marriage is a lifelong journey and takes a lifelong commitment to the process and the ability to move within a new paradigm with speed and accuracy.

For husband and wives I ask, “Have you noticed that the words Listen and Silent have all the same letters?” God sent this message through a Godly friend who understands the vision of marriage. SMILE. This is no coincidence. The key is husbands need to listen more to their wives; and wives need to be more silent and let The One touch her husband’s heart.

Hopefully, the man gets the message before he falls and the woman gets the point before she loses her mind. A husband must love his wife enough to put her before everything else except The One. The wife must trust her husband enough to let go and let God. Husband and wives must never stop believing in one another. No matter what the world says or the world’s way of doing it is, a husband has the right to be in everything the wife does, and the wife has the right to be in everything the husband does. Whether they exercise that right in all cases, when they do, it would behoove the other to pay very close attention. There is a reason for it. Usually that reason is a warning signal from the spiritual realm which reads: Attack or Threat of Attack. Nine times out of ten, the woman sees it first, this is why it is so important to listen.

They both must understand that it takes working together to maintain balance and there is no such thing in a healthy marriage of “my business” or “your business.” It is about “OUR” business. This must be the attitude of married couples and they must come to understand that anything the other does or says impacts the other. That impact can be life or it can be death. That’s how serious this thing is.

Love is not a game, so stop playing the field; and what God has joined together let no man or woman put asunder!

Your comments are requested and welcomed.

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