This is a message from Ingram Jones. It is a very powerful yet easy listening message. It behooves anyone to take the time to listen. SMILE.
In this message, Atiya discusses the importance of loving yourself before marriage and after marriage, and how love for self is a pre-requisite to knowing how to show love to your mate and others. She answers a question that was presented to her in a coaching session. For more information, please visit us online at http://www.themarriagetree.net.
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In this message, Atiya discusses how to Authentic Your Marriage and the importance of being honest and open to your mate. For more information, please visit us online at http://www.themarriagetree.net. To read the full article, please go to: http://www.blacklifecoaches.net/2014/07/08/marriage-suffering-authentic/
Men marry women they need and not necessarily who they want. In this message, Atiya shares with women a few tips on how to encourage their partners to marry them. For more information, please visit online at http://www.themarriagetree.net. To read the full article, please go to: http://www.blacklifecoaches.net/2014/02/11/how-to-get-your-man-to-say-i-do/
In this message, Atiya discusses the importance of fiscal responsibility and being aware of how you utilize your resources in marriage. For more information, please visit us online at http://www.themarriagetree.net. To read the article, go to: http://www.blacklifecoaches.net/2014/02/22/developing-wealth-consciousness-marriage/
Every human being has amazing value and potential. However, simply having potential is not enough when it comes to love and marriage. It takes hard work to be in a thriving relationship where both people benefit and grow. It takes a whole lot more than, “I love you.”
When it comes to the substantive part of working that twosome thing, it really is, “What’s love got to do with it?” Sure love is the fundamental, absolutely necessary, and key ingredient in any viable and lasting union. It’s the “essential flavor” of it. But like any baker will tell you, it takes much more than flour to make a cake; and it certainly takes much more than that for it to taste good.
What we do with our potential makes a world of difference in how well we fair in life.
If you are not willing to turn that potential into some kinetic energy and bring some real substance to the table, then your relationship will suffer as a result of it. When you’re engaged in a partnership with someone else, your choices impacts that person. Whether those choices were made during the course of your current relationship or in the past, they can “potentially” impact your present, particularly if you have not addressed the matter.
We all make mistakes, but we must be willing to correct the mistakes and not make excuses for them. We must learn from our blunders and not keep repeating the same ones over and over again. Being “grown” doesn’t make you qualified to be in an intimate relationship with someone. It takes a certain level of maturity and willingness to take joint responsibility with your mate to create circumstances in your relationship to help it grow and the two of you thrive. Repeating cycles of bad choices and decisions is not acting responsibly or even being smart. As a matter of fact, it sets both parties back.
Healthy relationships don’t set you back, they help you to flourish. Now I’m not saying that you won’t or shouldn’t have issues or face challenges in a relationship. Life happens. What I am saying is that people in healthy relationships regardless of their struggles, struggle together each making considerable contributions to help their situation become better. The burden does not just fall on one person. They share the burden, making it lighter for both. It takes teamwork.
Everyone has value. However, everyone does not bring value to a relationship. How are you relating with your mate? Ask yourself the following questions to determine if you are being a “Hero or Zero” in your relationship.
10 Questions to Ask Yourself to Determine If You’re Being a “Hero or Zero”
After you have taken a good hard look at yourself, look at your situation honestly and without the rose-colored glasses, and ask the next important question “Is my significant other being a Hero or Zero in our relationship?” After you have evaluated that, ask yourself one last question, “What am I going to do about it?”
I met a young woman who was recently married and only after three months of marriage, her husband had to return to his home country to tend to an elder relative. She at that time was unable to accompany her husband due to immigration challenges. The couple had only been married for six months and suddenly found themselves in the same predicament as countless other couples who are married, but living geographically separate as a result of military, employment, sick relatives, etc. This can be a very emotional and trying situation. These couples need support, inspiration, and encouragement, particularly newlyweds facing this devastating during one of the most important times in a marriage – that first year.
The first year of marriage is exciting, yet challenging. It’s a time when two people are learning about one another and adjusting to living as a married couple. When that time of adjustment and getting to know each other is usurped by an unexpected need for one spouse to go away, thus causing a separation of the unit, this can cause some additional challenges of cleaving in marriage. If you find yourself in this situation, don’t despair, remember it is only temporary and there are many creative ways to keep the marriage bed hot and the adjustment period a little adventurous making for some wonderful long-term memories and a more solid union. Lay a foundation of communication and trust; love and patience; compassion and sensitivity; creativity and imagination. Climb that ladder of success by taking five critical steps necessary to establishing an unbreakable bond. It is also key, when children are involved, to include them in the process when appropriate and during times that are set aside specifically for them.
Five Critical Steps to Keeping Your Marriage Strong
Step 1 – Build Protective Hedges
Placing hedges of protection around your marriage is about setting healthy boundaries that keep those from the outside from sowing seeds of dissension knowingly or unknowingly and about helping to insulate you and your spouse while not isolating the two of you. Ways to protect your marriage, especially during a separation include:
Step 2 – Block Out Competing Forces For the Greater Good
Step 3 – Enhance the Romance
Step 4 – Institute Systems of Support
Step 5 – Plan for the Reunion
Your marriage is an investment. If you desire to get a return on your investment, do what any good investment broker would do – Protect your resources!